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Spiritual Deepening Offering: My Grandmother's Hands book discussion


This book group will explore the body-centered trauma of white supremacy and a path toward healing through a discussion of the book My Grandmother's Hands by Resmaa Menakem.

The book “My Grandmother’s Hands: Racialized Trauma and the Pathway to Mending Our Hearts and Bodies” by Resmaa Menakem is revolutionary.  The author invites each of us to heal the racial trauma that lives in our bodies.  He describes dirty pain and clean pain and offers us body activities to metabolize our held traumas and become more conscious. Each chapter contains body activities that are essential in order to release the stuck energy within us in our work for racial justice.  This book discussion is open to anyone who is called to do the work of healing racialized trauma.

Join Bette Rainbow Hoover (BYM) and David Anick (NEYM) in a 6 week interactive discussion of Menakem’s book.  My Grandmother's Hands is available through QuakerBooks of FGC.  Participants will receive a discount code for 20% off the purchase price after registering.

Book Discussion Details:

  • Offered September 15 - October 20, 2021 
  • Six weeks, $30 pay-as-led** participation fee
  • Community Building Calls: Wednesdays at 7:30-9:00pm Eastern / 4:30-6:00pm Pacific, starting September 15, 2021
  • The same Zoom link will be used each week.  Zoom link provided upon RSVP.

**Pay-as-Led is a method of offering sliding scale pricing so that paid events are more accessible for people with a wide range of abilities to pay. Participants choose how much to pay for the registration fee.

Reading Schedule and Note from the Facilitators:

This six-week discussion group will cover 4 chapters of “My Grandmother’s Hands” each week. Participants are encouraged to read the chapters before each meeting. In each chapter Menakem provides several body-based or reflection-based exercises and practices that will add to your experience. Each week we will designate one exercise as “homework” that we ask you to do (if you can’t get to all of the practices).

Before our first Zoom call on September 15, we encourage you to read Chapters 1 - 4. The designated homework for our first class is the body practice on p. 31. Recognizing the “safe and settled” state is an essential skill that we will build upon in our work together.

Bette and Davi look forward to exploring the richness of Menakem’s principles and practices with you. Together we can find the pathway to mending our hearts and bodies and reduce racialized trauma.

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The My Grandmother's Hands Book Discussion will be facilitated by Bette Hoover and David Anick.